I remember it well, it was my birthday. My Mum had put on a party for me at the house, baked me a cake, had my friends round, and we played pass the parcel. For some reason, my girl gang and I were in the front hall. It was a narrow hall, but all the focus was on me. I stood on the hall radiator and leant over and balanced on the wall as I chatted with my friends. My Dad came down the hall and said, “don’t stand on the radiator.” I rolled my eyes and giggled and continued to stand. Within moments, I heard the crack and bright orange water came pouring out of the pipe over the carpet. Dad lost his cool and I got my face reddened good and proper in front of my gang; my party ended in tears!
My chore was loading the dish washer which was no more than ten steps from the kitchen bench. I didn’t want to walk back and forward twenty times with all the dishes so I piled them up with the idea of making one trip, one brown Pyrex bowl balanced on top. My Dad said, “Terri you are going to drop that.” I ignored his advice and carried on. Low and behold, the bowl fell off the top of the pile and smashed.
You need to put time in studying for your exams or you will not pass and these exams are important, you will need them in adult life. Ok sure, as I set off to my room to read Smash Hits beneath the cover of my lever ache file…. and guess what, I didn’t study and I didn’t pass.
The Bible says… ( my Heavenly Father says)
“My dearest brothers and sisters, take this to heart: Be quick to listen, but slow to speak. And be slow to become angry,”
James (Jacob) 1:19 TPT
I say… yes, yes that’s all well and good, but you don’t understand how much they hurt me. So my anger is justified, and so is my judgement. They deserve exactly what they receive from me because they are in the wrong.
The Bible says… (My heavenly father says)
““If your fellow believer sins against you, you must go to that one privately and attempt to resolve the matter. If he responds, your relationship is restored. But if his heart is closed to you, then go to him again, taking one or two others with you. You’ll be fulfilling what the Scripture teaches when it says, ‘Every word may be verified by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ And if he refuses to listen, then share the issue with the entire church in hopes of restoration. If he still refuses to respond, disregarding the fellowship of his church family, you must disregard him as though he were an outsider, on the same level as an unrepentant sinner.”
Matthew 18:15-17 TPT
I think … I should chat amongst my friends first, see who will agree with me that they are in the wrong, my hurt is justified. and my anger righteous. Then I can get some other view points and from there I will decide if I will go to them or just never speak to the person again.
You don’t need to be a genius to figure out the last two scenarios end the with the same disastrous results as the first few, with permanent damage and consequences that could have been avoided. I always saw this as just disobedience, stupidity even. What i’ve been learning over this past few days is that actually this is what is called pride. It is believing you know better, your way is better. I’ve done it my whole life, with my parents, with my friends, with my leaders, with authority, with God. I have placed myself above them time and time again, and I haven’t taken their advice, wisdom and guidance, and I have believed that my way was better… which maybe doesn’t seem like such a big deal here on earth, but what does it look like in Kingdom??
It looks like… I know better than you, God- Sir, Master, Creator, King of the universe, life giver to all things with breath.
It looks like… booting God off his throne as King of your heart, and putting your best selfie there.
It looks like… looking at your reflection and seeing a crown on your head and believing you put it there yourself.
It looks like… Big trouble.
Pride comes before the Fall
Pride is a powerful weapon of the enemy. We see it right back at the beginning, the very tool with which he convinced the perfect couple, with the perfect home, with the perfect family that they could be equal with God. And we all know the consequences we live with today because of that mindset.
Let’s not fall today, let’s seek God to address any pride lurking in our heart. He is ready and willing to help root it out and replace it with whole hearted surrender.
C. S. Lewis put it this way in Mere Christianity.
Fallen man is not simply an imperfect creature who needs improvement: he is a rebel who must lay down his arms. . . . This process of surrender…is what Christians call repentance. Now repentance is no fun at all. It is something much harder than merely eating humble pie. . . . It means killing part of yourself, undergoing a kind of death.”